concernednurse

Thanks for your input everyone, your specific examples are very helpful.

Can you point this out to me please, Lexie? Is it because told him what the consequence would be that made it a rule not a boundary? Because ultimately, the "I will leave" or "not attend" was to protect myself... for me. (Maybe I have trouble typing out what I'm really feeling sometimes...). And because he chose not to drink at that particular event, I attended knowing his drunk behavior wouldn't make me feel bad.

I also refuse to engage in argumentative, debating, or volatile behavior of any kind while drinking. That has been a boundary of mine from the outset, from experience in a past relationship.