yes, this disease EFFECTs everyone...would your daughter consider going to AL ANON? my mom and i go together and separatly...
Keep going to AL ANON and get a sponsor and read and read and read, tools can help you every minute of the day!
I did the exact thing as your daughter did to my mom. Did not know i was setting boundaries that where healthy for me to live...yes its awefull, but now, my mom and i have a wonderful relationship with boundaries..i have my life and recovery and she has her own...
I understand my mom more and have compassion for what she lived with, forgiveness and compassion healed me...
take it one step at a time, the program works if you work it