Originally Posted by
concernednurse 
And part of my own journey is learning why I am attracted to people who are addicted, or conversely, why I'm not attracted to healthy people...
Yep, that's the question. Or one of the big ones, at least. It's a lot of frickin' hard work; I'm still not sure why I chose XAH and put up with the alcoholism, etc., for so many years. Nothing in how my parents raised me points to some one who would grow up to allow this. Yes, my mom is ACOA, but her mom passed away when she was very little, I never knew her. Yes, my parents divorced when us kids were in college, but Dad was never abusive (emotionally or otherwise) towards Mom or us kids... Why did I attract and work so hard on keeping this abusive Alcoholic happy? It seems a truly daunting task to figure out.
I can't say I'm looking forward to this journey, but I know it needs to be taken.