Originally Posted by
Fandy 
I guess I don't understand WHY you are in "recovery"???? you aren't the one with 3 duis and history of obnoxious loud embarrassing drunk behavior....you are on the receiving end.
it's great that you are so supportive and loving, but if the tables were turned, would he give that much of his energy to you?
personally, i am tired of always giving and giving up what I want for someone else's comfort to become front and center.
That is true, Fandy. I am not the one who has had trouble with alcohol. But loving someone with alcoholism has caused me to lose who I was by trying with all that I had to get him to change who he is, get him to see what I see, get him to want what I want- for him. I needed "recovery" to realize that he is allowed to be who he wants, and for me to ask otherwise was unhealthy for me. I was becoming "addicted" to fixing him. And actually, I do believe he would give me that much energy if I had a sickness, too.