love....are you not in AL ANON....gee whiz...please stop this behaviour....AL ANON will help you see the errors of all of the behaviours and actions we do to the A or NA or both....
PLEASE stop and get help for YOU
3 C's
you did not cause this
you can not control this
and there is no control..
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if you get this..then all of the behaviours and re-actions would stop...follow your gut
this is his life, his "recovery", and his responsiblity
AL ANON works if YOU work it...get honest and get real