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Old 04-21-2011, 10:29 PM
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kittykitty
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All I have to say about this is what I know from experience.
My alcoholic used to love using the emotional manipulation to make me question the validity of my boundaries. That's why I ended up taking him back so many times, even after I begged him to give me space. There was always a way for him to convince me that I was over reacting, or being selfish. Or should I say, I convinced myself based on things he would say or do.

I left him three weeks ago and haven't looked back. I know what I need, and if he can't respect that and my wishes on how to be treated, I don't need him around.

I no longer feel guilty about setting boundaries. I think long and hard about my motivation, and then do what I have to do, and I don't care who likes it and who doesn't. I'm sick of altering my life to make others happy.

That's all I got.
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