How do I handle the sad voice?
As most of you know, my AH (so called??RAH) moved away.
I have only seen him 3 weeks out of 5 months.
He called 5 times today and I did not answer. I told him I would
NOT talk to him while I was at work. After work I had appointments
to attend and could not answer the phone.
Tonight, he leaves me a message on my phone..
He was So So Sad..(On the verge of crying)
"Please do me a favor, get a divorce and tell me its over, I cant handle
this anymore, Why wont you talk to me"
After 5 months now, there really isnt much to talk about, except
the dogs & weather
I have explained to him, I need time, I am working on me. Please
give me space.
But then I think, OMG..If I was in his shoes, how would I feel if
he wouldnt talk to me?
Wouldnt a "normie" husband get upset if you didnt answer the calls?
The guilt makes me feel so bad. I realize I need to hold my boundaries
and there is never a happy medium with him. If I dont answer, I get
the threats of him moving back home.
When I do talk to him, we talk about the dogs
or I get the one million questions that he sneaks up on me with
and throws my boundaries over board....
Any suggestions on how I should look at the feelings of
Guilt or The Bad Wife?