It's easier isn't it? The blame game.. get the easy target.. it's not as 'hard' or life changing as actually sitting with the fact that the addict has complete responsibility for willingly and purposefully destroying themselves. Course.. then as people who love addicts, is it the addict that then turned around and destroyed me? Or is there personal responsibility there as well, because I actively engaged in MY addiction to the addict, and allowed the treatment I'm a 'victim' of? (See how crazymaking and circular this gets? Blameshifting all over the damn place.).
When I got sober, I remember being pissed off at alcohol, and drugs. Oh man I was pissed, I flipped of the liquor aisles in grocery stores. I listened to really angry music that reminded me about how PISSED I was that alcohol and drugs had done so many bad things to me and my life. Only when I truly started recovering did I have to take on the incredibly harrowing and humbling task of blaming myself.