When you are in an emotional relationship with a practicing alcoholic or addict, you are a hostage.
Soon the Stolkholm Syndrome begins to affect your emotions and thoughts and actions.
The Stockholm Syndrome
Signs and symptoms
As an FBI hostage negotiator and behavioral profiler, I taught others that this so-called syndrome or set of symptoms includes certain behaviors that may be exhibited during a significant personal challenge or stressful situation, including:
Positive feelings towards kidnapper/abuser
Victims have positive feelings towards the hostage taker, kidnapper, abuser or controller in his or her life.
Negative towards help
Victims have negative feelings towards the authorities, family members, or friends who try to rescue or otherwise win the victim’s release from their threatening and/or challenging situation. By this, any rescue attempt– be it from a volatile hostage situation or a volatile marriage– could be seen as a threat as it’s likely that the “victim” could be injured (physically or emotionally) during any attempt at “rescue.”
Supporting their reasoning
Victims support the hostage taker’s or the abuser’s behavior and reasoning, including assisting, helping, or refusing to acknowledge the negative impact of the individual’s behavior and actions.
Inability to escape
The victim is unable to behave or assist in a manner to help his/herself escape from a challenging or threatening situation
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The only way out is to escape, stop sitting on their blisters for them.
They pay lip service to everything you say, but they will obey pain, and the PAIN will come from them sitting on their own blisters that they get from sitting on the burner.
VICTIM OR VOLUNTEER?
If you know this through your experience , then you are a volunteer.