First off, congratulations! The journey to this point hasn't been easy, and I'm only ... 5 days ahead of you!
I'm still holding my breath. ABF is starting to ask for definitive answers, and I don't have any. I keep saying, 'I love you, I won't live with you as long as you are an active alcoholic. We'll see what happens over the next year or two.' He cried all day long yesterday, after an all-night binge, and said he'd go to AA. This morning when I asked his plans for the day, he said he had none, he had the whole day free. I kept quiet, squashing my sarcastic, unhelpful, knee-JERK reaction.
Back to thinking about my values, my plans, what I want in a relationship, if I want a relationship. Yesterday's meeting was on Step 4: "Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves." le sigh. It's time for me to get a workbook.
I love your questions - they're the same as mine. You just know how to express them ~ thank you!
- Sylvie