Welcome to the SR family!
I think you made a wise choice to attend Alanon. It helped me regain focus in my life.
You will also find support and information here at SR. We are open 24/7.
I enjoy reading in the permanent (sticky) posts at the top of the forum pages. I am always finding wisdom from others in those posts.
This is one of my favorite sticky posts:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html