I say this with compassion in my heart:
Stop asking for God's sake! Alanon, Alanon, Alanon!
When you ask you force them to lie, or you create EXACTLY the situation you created. Nothing good comes of that! EVER!
Stop expecting a dog not to bark. Stop asking it if it barked.
It's a dog. Dogs bark.
Take care, take what you want, and leave the rest.
Cyranoak