XXXXXXX,
Thanks for coming back to SR to update us. I've been checking regularly to see if you posted, and I'm glad to see you are your daughter are starting over in a "safe" place.
Whatever method you choose to close the door on this relationship, at least for now, I do agree that No Contact would be best for you. As for him, this is part where you practice letting go and trusting HP. He will be ok.
I also wanted to express how amazed I am at your quick progress since you've started comnig to SR. You're doing so well it's astouding. Even so, I hope you keep coming back here to get some ESH or just to update us on how you're doing.