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Old 04-19-2011, 04:54 PM
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suki44883
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Just stop answering. Block his number on your phone and his email address on your computer. You are correct that these conversations are unproductive. The more you talk with him, the more confusing everything gets. He knows how you feel about the drinking. No need to keep reminding him.

Also...

1. don't call me if you are drinking.
2. don't call me after 10pm.

These are not boundaries, they are rules. They require HIM to make changes. In this scenario, boundaries would be..

1. If he calls me and I can tell he is drunk, I will end the call immediately.
2. I will not answer the phone if he calls after 10pm

Of course, if you are going no contact (which I strongly suggest) the above is moot, but something to keep in mind.
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