I focus on doing things I want to. When there are things I should do that I don’t want to, I look into why that is: Is it something I should do, or is it something somebody else thinks I should do? What are the consequences of not doing it? Do those consequences make me want to do it?
I am just not very good at doing things I don’t want to do. Never have been, being sober does not change that much, if at all. It might even have made it worse. Life is too short to struggle with stuff. And it is way to short not to be honest about it.