Just as the addict bucks back against the change required for recovery, so do those who have been their support structure. It's almost expected. If we just gave in that easily, we never would have come searching for new answers to the same old questions, anyway.
Change is hard but necessary.
If it was easy, we would have done it already, right?
Frankly, if something I said fired you up, then I'm glad. Means you're listening and working things through and not just grinning and nodding along.
Everybody's path is different so we can only give you ideas and things to ponder, experiences to compare to, you've got to the hard work and get in the trenches and make the changes. We can support, but we can't shield you from any fallout.
Whatever happens. Whatever is said here. Whatever you take from it....
Don't stop trying. Don't give up. Recovery can be some hard hairy work, but it is so worth it.
Keep reading. Keep posting. Keep coming back.
Best to you,
Alice