Originally Posted by
Buffalo66 
I was onto it for a long time, before I had the strength to let him fall if he "couldnt stand", or to let him gasp if he "couldnt breathe"...but guess what? He ususally responded to me letting go in anger, and guess what else? He sure could stand and breathe when he was angry that I stopped dancing with his games.
This is so true. I kicked my AH out and he is on a crazy bender right now, he keeps calling me in a sweet but pitiful voice, telling me he loves me and he just wants to sleep in his own house or that he is ready "to be the man I want him to be." As soon as I say I don't think that's a good idea, he goes all Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde on me and starts yelling, "FINE!" and raves about having to sleep in his car, etc. and hangs up. It is very manipulative and insincere. I feel strong that I haven't caved yet, but I am reading this forum pretty much hourly right now for inspiration to stick to my guns.