Thank you ALL for your words of wisdom. I believe I knew a lot of what you were saying already, I needed to hear it. I picked up the book Co-dependant No More (I bought it about 6 months ago and hadn't read it yet) and was quite surprised at alot of the similar traits I have to some of the peoples stories in the first chapter. Most importantly, how I'm trying to steer his ship and manipulate his bad choices and most recently, the area where I am so quick to anger. Stella is right, our friendship is too enmeshed and it appears that some distance would do all of us some good. Now, I just have to say it and mean it. (sigh).