staying non contact is going to be hard... you will have to look at it as detoxing from him... like addicts detox from drugs.
And that is okay. The best way to detox is while you are getting him out of your system you are putting positive and good feelings about yourself in that place.
So - every day see how many times you say something positive about yourself... do something for yourself ... when someone does something positive for you - like even opening a door to a bldg / room ... having a thankful journal - but most importantly saying something positive about yourself or feeling something that is good about you. AND OWNING IT!
