vvl,
sorry to hear of your situation. I have live it and I geta shudder as I think of it.
My wife needed to find bottom before starting any kind of recovery and that meant me and my girls moving out to another house (couldn't bring myself to tell her to go)
This has been great for all of us, her included.
I have been to the ER twice with overdoses.
Things can get better, but you might have to make your own changes. We can't wait for them to chaneg at the expense of ourselves and our children.
Just IMHO