Good morning BobbyJ!
I hope you were able to settle a bit and get some sleep last night. Things always seem so dismal for me at night, but that after some sleep... I always seem to find hope. Maybe not a ton, but enough to realize that today is a new day!
You don't what shape your husband is going to show up in. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst (ie. Make a PLAN!).... and then let go. When he comes home, you'll know which one you have to deal with and then put your plan to action.
Just remember... You don't HAVE to engage in a conversation. He can throw out bait all he wants, and you can walk away, or say "you may be right!".
Deep breaths, and YOU CAN DO THIS! One step at a time.
Keep posting because we are here for you!