Absolutely, wanttobe. I can understand what you are saying. For me, it was a matter of "he's my husband" and "we can do anything together" that moved me out here where his family lives, away from mine.
It was all MY going along with what he wanted rather than looking at what was best for ME. But we were married and supposed to make sacrifices for each other.
The problem in my marriage turned out to be that the only one willing to sacrifice was ME.
At the end, I realized that I was going to go down, too, trying to prop him up and help him get out of his self-dug hole, and there literally was a moment where God showed me it was either HIM or ME and the kids, and at that moment, I HAD to put my money on ME. My children deserved it.
I don't know if you can relate to me, but I can completely relate to the crossroads in which you stand. I know it's hard.