Originally Posted by
Babyblue 
I am detaching from my expectations, fantasy, emotional needs from him and the attention but I am not detaching from him as long as that love stays viable. At least that is how I see it.
Sometimes you have to step back or your shadow prevents the sun from reaching the flowers! (I just made that up.. not bad eh?)
Or I told myself, 'get off of the roller coaster but you can still spend time at the carnival'.
I totally have trouble detaching from my fantasy of my exbf. We are still good friends, and I still fantasize that we will be together again.
DUH! Talk about setting myself up for failure! But I am getting better at letting go of expectations, and detaching from his personal dysfunction in relationships, and focusing on MY sanity and serenity...
Love the flowers quote, I would be proud if I came up with that!