MG,
Reacting is one of my biggest characture defects.... I have whipped it and I have fallen back into it.
What I do know is that there is a moment of time before you react when you still have a choice of how to RESPOND or even IF a response is needed. If you blindly react you are giving up that choice.
I faked it....I just chose not to say anything at all when I felt provoked. And then I watched the other person and often they would backpeddle. They were setting me up to react...pushing my buttons....and when they did not get what they expected their attitude would change. It was an eye opener and it led me directly into examining MY part in all the drama.
It is an interesting path....so that would be my advise to you..just stop it....fake it 'till you make it!
Love,
JT