Originally Posted by
wanttobehealthy 
Odd as it may sound I don't feel miserable at all. I feel much more in control of the choices I am making than I have in a long time.
Odd how it can be a slippery slope, what we will tolerate, consider normal, or an improvement. I know I have experienced the "lowering expectations of reasonable behavior syndrome".
What I want to say, underscore I guess cuz you have said it, is to consider the childrens' needs above anyone elses.
Stability is important. But many children are uprooted and the reason that kids thrive or not, isn't about geography. I don't personally believe in taking children away from a parent, but it sounds like you don't have a lot of choices. (Really there are no teaching jobs in your area??)
The notion of you moving and the kids staying w/ dad is ludicrous.
You are modeling what a woman/wife is, and how she allows herself to be treated by her man. That is huge, in my book.
Not meaning to shame you, or increase your burden....
I always advocate for the children though.