I want to add that I've been thru many of the sober/drunk cycles since he started drinking( I didn't marry a drunk, he became a drunk a few years into the marriage). Every time I got my hopes up that "this" sober cycle would stick, that maybe I wouldn't screw up this time, I'd be a better wife, nothing I did/didn't do would make him go back to drinking.
You know what has changed this time? Me, the way I think, the way I'm acting has changed. I know he sees it, if he didn't his rants wouldn't have changed the way they have lately.