In the fall of '09, my AH promised to change, to stop drinking, to help out, to be a better husband and father, after he kicked the kids and I out(which, now in his rants, is me having left him?!)
He stayed sober for 45 days, attended a single AA meeting, never changed, in some ways he's actually gotten worse(first DUI for example) Purposely spends his paychecks on crap, so he doesn't have to support his kids, why? Because he "doesn't get none".
Was it worth the damage to my self-esteem, my psyche, the kids self-esteem, etc to stay? No, I stayed in large part to lies he told me. do I regret it? EVERY DAY! the only bright part of some days, is knowing that the end is very, very near.