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Old 04-15-2011, 09:24 AM
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StarCat
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I am not, and will never be, friends with XABF.

There was a time when I thought I would, if he would just do XYZ, and be more like the person I thought he should be, etc, etc, etc.
That's not healthy thinking, that's trying to control him, that's holding on to something that will probably never be, and that's opening myself up to be manipulated back into the "relationship."

I am a firm believer in no contact.
The last time he broke no contact, it was to insult me, and tell me what a horrible person I am, in some crazy attempt to get me back.
I have found my serenity since I have removed him from my life, and I want to keep it.

I am being picky choosing friends, choosing those who will help me build myself up rather than those who will tear me down with or without my help, and it's working wonders for me.
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