Thanks JDS. That does sound really similar.... and right now it's the girls and whether I feel okay pulling them away from what they know AND pulling them away from their dad that are really impacting my feelings...
I have sacrificed since we moved to NH- and we came here bc of my H (which is why I left my job I loved in the first place) and I feel like it's his turn to make some compromises/sacrifices.
I guess if he's unwilling to then I'll just decide what I want and if it means he stays behind, then so be it.
His selfishness is just overwhelming.