I get detachment but I want to be in a healthy relationship and enjoy my partner. When I detach I feel lifeless with him because I am detaching. We are still not doing fun things together or enjoying each others company because of the drinking. It just isn't a relationship to me when I am detaching.
I want a FUN and HEALTHY realtionship with someone and I am finding out that I can not have that with an A, no matter how much I try and detach.
