Originally Posted by
LaTeeDa 
I was the absolute opposite of laid back and go with the flow. Both when we met and all throughout the 20-year marriage. I am much more laid back now.
Personally, I think it's about neediness. Alcoholics need enablers and codependents need to be needed.
L
yup and im the enabling needy one and working hard to change that, my god its tough but im getting there slowly