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wanttobehealthy I know that when I find the people in my life with behaviors similar to AH the most frustrating it's usually bc something about my AH is feeling especially out of control.
For ex. When I let AH's brother really, really get to me last week it wasn't bc he was being any different than he's always been-- it was bc I was a lot more frustrated and fed up with AHs antics. It's "unsafe" to be uspet with AH so I focussed my frustration on bil. I also was/am feeling stressed beyond belief about my job being cut, my financial state etc... So, add in bad behavior by bil and that gives me a different focus.
Not suggeting that you're distracting yourself bc your sister sure sounds infuriating but just something to think about:
Is there something about the A in your life that is feeling more out of control than usual?
Is there something going on with you that you're having a hard time dealing with?
These are things I've been trying to ask myself when I find myself wanting to lose it on a sick family member (ie: last week I lost it on my mil. I am glad I did, but I prob wouldn't have if AH hadn't been pushing my buttons in a particularly huge way...) There seems to me to always be a connection between my reactions and what's going on around me and ultimately I need to find a better way to focus just on me.
Ohhh this is good - WTBH - and in bold is probably the culprit. I am freaking out over reorganizing my universe right now...moving...getting the new house ready...needing some new furniture...repairs...cars break down...behind at work because of taking time off...and that first house payment looming around the corner...you know what?! I am so f'ing sick of HER drama overshadowing my own!
Yeah, I need to get over myself in that respect.
At least I am not her, and thank heavens for that. My drama will peter out in short order, once I get re-settled and all is calm again. Hers...well...it will continue on and on and on and on...because she likes it that way.
Did I mention how much I dislike that woman? I just want to "Good God" her!