Originally Posted by
sillysquirrel 
Isn't it strange....how they want us to need them, want them, rely on them....and on the rare occasion we really need them....they can't be there? This is a huge problem for my "R"AH and I. He hates how independent I am....but he made me this way. When I occasionally do need him for something or dare to ask for help, he is never able to give me what I need. And then I get mad at myself for even thinking that he could possibly help me out in any way, shape or form.
Yes! This inconsistency has been driving me nutso lately. When I do detach and go about my business, he gets all freaky and says "you're mad" or acts defensively, but if I get sick or need something from him, he gets mad and freaks out because I won't be doing the things he wants.