When I first started experiencing detachment I was also confused. hell, I'd been engaging and intertwining and working it with my AH for so long, detachment was bizarre.
Now I relish it. Love it. The ability to really say, this is your problem, not mine, and LEAVE IT. Just like we tell the damn dog. Leave it.
Better yet, after the detachment comes enjoying my life which I've spent years threatening to do. Now it's time.