LOL @ the sinus drainage thing...oh boy "quacccck, quaccccck"! As for your question about whether you were a cold hearted bit**...absolutely NOT sweetie! I say "You go girl"! Sure, it hurts to see someone we love doing this to themselves..but detachment is something that might possibly be a "wake-up" call to our loved one. I'm still working on my attachment issues and "codie" issues, but this excellent place is helping me tremendously with that. Hugs and Blessings to you and a BIG happy birthday to your daughter!
Aimee