Old 04-09-2011, 12:03 PM
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ItsmeAlice
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I say take it easy on yourself. You are assuming that going to Al-Anon and reading the literature means you are going to have the patience, control, and emotional range of a learned monk.

And for that matter, just because someone is in early recovery from alcoholism doesn't mean that they get to be in a bubble and the world must tiptoe around them. People have emotions and sometimes those emotions are going to get directed at him. Considering the strain his addiction has placed on others, it's going to come back to him at some point.

You lost your cool and a lot of sewage bubbled to the surface. You apologized for your behavior and you are right, the ball is in his court.

He has to learn in his recovery to deal not only with his emotional baggage but the baggage of those he's hurt over time. Is it a lot to ask of someone new to recovery, sure. Is is a lot to ask for you to never let your feelings get the better of you, absolutely.

If you are both working your programs, you both have tools and support to weather this.

Best wishes,
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