Old 04-09-2011, 10:56 AM
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Tuffgirl
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I have to second Cyranoak on this one. Early recovery is not a time to be airing your pain to him. Take it to an Al-Anon meeting or your sponsor if you have one. Write it out (I do, too, it really helps).

I had to let go of the need to be validated by my RAH. But I also chose not to live with him because of how hard it was the first two months. These last three have been so much better that I bought my own house to live in. Why? I can't deal well with the early recovery stuff. I need my own space, my own time to heal. I needed to remove myself from the stress and chaos. He needed that, too. I know now that I am just as toxic to him as he has been to me, and neither of us have a chance in hell at recovery if we are living together.
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