We certainly had the parent/child role going. Like others have said, it is hard to say which came first. My xah didn't talk to me like a mouthy teenager or anything like that. He just wanted to be taken care of and not have responsibility...and I was right there, doing everything and then some. Ugh. I shudder to think of it now.
It is deadly to a relationship and I can see now how damaging it was to us both individually as well.