I can totally relate...
For the past several months I have fully believed that if only my husband stopped drinking, everything would be hunky dory between us. When sober, I do see glimpses of the wonderful person I fell in love with, but I also see the a**hole he can be when drunk. Even though he's sober, he's judmental and self-absorbed and acts like his entire life sucks. I'm really glad to have come to the awareness that it's not just the drunk.
Anyway - thanks for sharing!