Its all quacks until action happens, and even then, in my case, it is now about whether he can SUSTAIN the changes.
And that all just pertains to the parenting.
I dont even know what to think about the love part.
This is a man that I waited for for 10 years.
Im 42, now.
If he is doing it to make you happy, then it wont stick.
He needs a bottom to smack him in the face.
You should not have to expend any more energy, waste anymore time even trying to orchestrate that, or even create a good climate for it to happen in.
Your action, as yours, for you, will either affect him positively, or not.
You need to take your actions regardless, because I know you dont want to spend 10 years waiting and accruing more disrespect and anger.
like I did.
sending you love and support!