Dsorg,
Do you belong to any alanon groups?
it helps me to come here too, where others understand. there probably is nothing that hasn't been heard here!
I really hate being lied to, but I guess that is what we should expect. anything else would be a miracle, to me. I have to remember that if I am trying to control him, or being jugemental, he is more apt to lie, or to close off communication altogether.
keep posting, it helps.
guess we cant expect them to care, either.
I think that we should have a guide of dos and don'ts - like "do not show surprise if you pick up a glass and it smells like liquor." maybe maybe simplify that to "do not pick up glasses and smell them, ever".
hang in there, we are strong together!
chicory