Originally Posted by
duqld1717 
This thread reminds me alot of the thread "Do Alcoholics really love us". I personally don't think they love us. They pretend so that they can continue to live the way they want. Its all a facade. Therefore, that's why they show no compassion. They are not emotionally available while in active addiction. This is just my opinion.
Are they emotionally available when not in active addiction? My RAH has not drank for 1.5 years. It seems to me his addiction to alcohol is the result of trying to self medicate himself or to numb himself to whatever is going on inside. Now that he has removed the alcohol...he is even more difficult, critical and angry than he was when he was drinking. I find him to be completely emotionally unavailable.