Keep on pushing on and make your priorities clear. After a long period of struggling to stay sober and keeping my house free of alcohol, my husband told me he liked me "that way". He liked the drunk me, but he hated the drunk me. I could see he was conflicted and I hated myself for that.
This was after a long period of him sabotaging my efforts, such as placing alcohol every where in the house and finding my sober personality uninteresting. And he hated AA and said they were a cult. He did nothing to encourage me.
But I didn't quit. I just have to believe that me and my husband will find a new way with my sobriety and I wish it for all of you ladies too.