Not sure he is really doing that though so not sure where I stand.
I have no great words of wisdom...just wanted to say this statement jumped out at me. I've often struggle with "manageable" boundaries - no matter how many times my sponsor explains them! I draw the line, so to speak, but don't really consider how I will know the boundary has been crossed or how I react or follow through if it's been violated.
Again, no great advice, just a whole lot of understanding and compassion for how you feel.
P.S. The "wish" quote in my previous post was based on how I feel about me... not your situation.