Originally Posted by
nodaybut2day 
Forgive me if this sounds insensitive but...what's holding you back from separation at this point? Obviously, your whole life isn't encompassed in your posts, but from what you've described, it seems like you're barely tolerating him and he is doing everything in his power to mess you up. That's not a marriage. That's not even a healthy roommate situation.
We are separated. He comes by to see the girls most late afternoons/early evenings. I have no plan to be anything other than separated for a long long time. In fact divorce is where I'm headed. Sorry if I didn't make this clear.