Babyblue, my husband has been in recovery since Aug 09, including 3 months residential. In his case he still doesn't really know how to deal with other people. He was "medicated" with alcohol for so long, that learning to deal with life sober has taken almost all of his energy and focus. He is just now getting to the point where he can consider dealing with my feelings. I laugh when I think about how much I worried about how to deal with him when he was inpatient. I doubt he remembers that much of it - I think it is a blur for him now.
There's no way for you to know what is going on in his head, or how he will be as he progresses in recovery. I suspect that you may not even be a topic of conversation. Recovery isn't about learning to have a relationship with other people, it is about learning to have a relationship with yourself. Others come later.
The best thing you can do for yourself is figure out YOU.