Hi Confused - Welcome to SR.
I was reading your other thread, too. I have some experience dealing with mental health issues because both of my children are/have been affected.
You said your husband has an appt with a psychologist but, honestly, he needs the help of a psychiatrist, preferably one who specializes in addiction as well. It sounds as though he needs a complete psychiatric work-up and evaluation. For my daughter it required a 30-day hospital stay and now "intensive outpatient" (3-4 hrs/week) therapy.
It's good that you have the psychologist appointment, but I'm just suggesting that you save that money and go to a psychiatrist instead.
He can get better, but it will take time.
I hear your desperation about wanting him to HELP you, but I'm afraid that instead you may need to focus on what
you can do to protect you, your kids and your finances in light of his unpredictable behavior.
I'm very sorry you are going through this.
