ok so i have codependent ways
and i have only really been actively working on reconfiguring my head for 10 days or so.
already i am thinking that i have rescued someone in the chatroom and can see myself doing what i presumb is caretaking behavior after them
thing is i know i have brought them a great wisdom with recommending a good codependency book which i 2 am reading and they are very early days dry drunk [10 days or so] so they might not yet be strong enough to get/understand the whole ask ask ask idea for when you need help.
I figure i will taper off the support and caretaking support slowly and hope they step up but a part of me does still feel good to see the positive effect i can have