Originally Posted by
StarCat 
I just found this in my "Why Does He Do That?" book.
People's conduct while intoxicated continues to be governed by their core foundation of beliefs and attitudes, even though there is some loosening of the structure. Alcohol encourages people to let loose what they have simmering below the surface.
I am throwing in my vote for this. My husband may be "sober" but he is saying the same things, some worse, to me now that he said when drunk. It's there, just under the surface, all the time. And believe me, this men aren't putting near as much energy in worrying about their behavior as we are. This is how they keep us hooked.
Forget it - its not worth the energy anymore. Blech!