Does everyone here forgive their A's for all that they have done because they are sick
NO. I forgave my A for ME. So I would not continue to carry around the 'baggage' of all that he did or didn't do. Will I ever forget? Probably not, but the forgiveness was not for him, it is for me.
"Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us."
I learned a lot from that phrase of "The Lord's Prayer."
Early in my recovery in AA we would close our meetings with this prayer. Here I was asking my HP to forgive me the way I forgave others. Ut Oh. I had to learn how to forgive others.
As to him finding a new girlfriend, wish her luck. Either she is an up and coming alkie and an enabler or both.
The person you loved was not the person you thought he was nor will he ever be ........................ you are free now to move on with your life in the direction you want to go. You are young, with your whole life ahead of you.
Enjoy your new life!!!!
Love and hugs,